Rescue yourself first ✨

Dude I used to rescue EVERYONE.

Down on your luck ? Call Bo Kitty

Abusive partner ? Call Bo Kitty

Fucked your sixteenth job up in a row ? Call Bo Kitty

Victim mentality and can't get it together?

Guess who to call ? 🤪😑

Honestly I have a massive community and I will always always help people who really need me but....

I no longer help, fix, save, enable or otherwise rescue people who cannot make initial steps to help themselves.

This is so, so big for me. I can't even tell you. I've been rescuing other people ever since I rescued myself successfully at 16.

But it's no longer good for me or... for most of the people that I rescue.

In your mid 40s - rescuing and enabling people who can't get it together - is just hurting you and actually hurting them in the long run. At some point everybody needs to be responsible for their own selves, choices, lives etc whatever that means. That's empowerment.

There's been a number of people cross my path lately, old friends, new connections, even potential partners.. who have needed a fucktonne of rescuing, helping and saving.

And for the first time ever in my entire fuckin life.

I've loved them.. and let them go.

I can't even tell you what this has done for my nervous system.

I've actually felt so so guilty in these moments. It's taken every sinew and bone to not scoop them up and take them home and cuddle them in all the ways till they're okay again.

But - I'm not responsible for saving the entire world. I created a business around the fact that I was helping and saving people so much.. that eventually I needed to get paid for it.

Because I want everyone to get ahead and I've got a massive heart and I'm generous with my time and that has sometimes often not paid off in the past.

So I just want to say this publicly to encourage you and to implore you.

Who are you saving and helping and enabling? Is it actually helping them or is it holding them back from the really tough things that they need to confront to better themselves?

To love themselves first? So they can love you?

It's a really hard question to ask yourself and even harder question to pose. But life is short my lovelies .. You gotta put your own oxygen mask on first.

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